Funny, with all the information we have today - to promote the idea that there is within each of us the ability to inspire those around us by living a life that is more outward focused than inward focused girls/women are still mean to each other. By being selfless, we can do our part to make the world a better place, spreading love, and hope through our daily actions. It is not only by what we say but also more importantly by the life that we live out that shows what each of us is made of.
However, what happen s in reality is not all the nice things I mentioned.
I think one of the major problems with girls/females is Media. The way mean girls are represented in the media". You ever notice how mean girls are usually pretty, thin, rich upper class (and if they are not they pretend to be), living in mansion in the suburbs, while they live in a Trailer Parks, attending well-funded schools or private schools. They've got expensive clothes, cell phones, cars and the jock boyfriend or two or three. And while there is nothing wrong with any of those things the portrayal is negative.
But what is despicable is the way in which the media has exploded our air waves with mean girls TV show and movies books, portraying girls as equally as - if not more - aggressive than boys, in their own conniving and manipulative way. YUCK!
Also girls/women have a lot of anxiety about changes in the social system of our culture, which is driving the “mean girl" phenomenon. The basic fallacy of so many of the movies on this topic is that there's something inherent in femaleness that creates these kinds of (abusive) behaviors. No, ladies you either want to be or not…is the question.
The second problem now is that people with "poor" self-esteem often rely on how they are doing in the present to determine how they feel about themselves. They lack the ability to assess themselves accurately and still are not able to accept others unconditionally. They need positive external experiences to counteract the negative feelings and thoughts that constantly plague them. Even then, the good feeling (from a good grade, etc.) can be temporary. Sadly, they are not equipped with the tools that would enable "Them" to realistically, acknowledge their own strengths, never mind someone else's and so they are limited.
Know this: "we are all worthwhile without conditions or reservations. so wether you are big or small, fat or thin, black asian or white, rich or poor, bookworm or not, you are somebody special.
Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then. ~ Katharine Hepburn
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