Moncton Forum

just.me wrote:

Hmm Iwonder if I can get in trouble for aiding and abetting a known suspended fellon from here

1) I don't think the rules have a citation for helping someone evade a suspension
2) I have it on good authority that if someone was complaining about his not honoring the suspension that the same someone isn't complaining about your involvement

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Does Zymry, the murderer of his master have peace ? (Jezebel 2 kings 9:31)
Not yet. You wanna help with that ? (me, 24:7)
faith is the substance of things hoped for the evidence of things not seen
I hate people that flaunt the very rules they hide behind

Cautiouslizard, this is a hard call. But toughlove is the answer. There are programs available to help you deal with him, take advantage. My parents dealt with similar things with my brother. They got help. Joined the Toughlove program(this is not a bootcamp thing for the kid, it is a support group for parents to help each other with ideas). Eventually put him out when it was apparent he was going to lay around doing drugs and not go back to school(he was 17) or work. He was angry for years, and in some ways still is BUT He is now in his 30's, doing well, good job, etc. He will never admit it, but if they had not kicked him out he would be in jail now, that is where he was going.
Yes it is scary. Yes, maybe he will stay "lost", some do. They have choices, sometimes all a parent can do is offer the tools, the love, if it is turned down.......well......

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I agree with that totally. My brother was like that when i lived with my parents and eventually, I moved out at 16 because of the sh*t he would put me through (stealing everything I owned) my parents never did anything but give him what he eventually wanted. Now he's married to a control freak cause it's the only type of chick that can deal with him i suppose.

On to my b/f's son. The big problem is he is NOT canadian and cannot get his SIN until he has canadian status (which is a very long proccess) so that is not the quick fix for the situation. I guess he talked to his mom about the whole crack thing and he told her he couldn't believe that she would do anything of the sort. They said they will get jobs in town so that they can function (I highly doubt that will happen cause she's just very selfish and only does for herself)

So I guess my crisis is now blown over, thanks for all the moral support, I'm been really stressed lately and this just pushed it over board. You guys all rock

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Be careful what you write cause you can say boo and they will jump down your throat.

Redfox wrote:

Cautiouslizard, this is a hard call. But toughlove is the answer. There are programs available to help you deal with him, take advantage. My parents dealt with similar things with my brother. They got help. Joined the Toughlove program(this is not a bootcamp thing for the kid, it is a support group for parents to help each other with ideas). Eventually put him out when it was apparent he was going to lay around doing drugs and not go back to school(he was 17) or work.

The "tough love" organization scares me due to the Leslie Mahaffy incident. People can call it an isolated corner case if they like. She was locked out of her house due to missing too many curfews, because she was locked out as the "consequences" part of the program she was picked up , raped, tortured murdered and cut into little pieces by Bernardo and Homolka.

My friends kids KNOW that should they ever be refused admittance to their homes for whatever reason, no matter the time of day or night call me and they will be picked up and given a place to stay til we can sort things out in the morning.

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Does Zymry, the murderer of his master have peace ? (Jezebel 2 kings 9:31)
Not yet. You wanna help with that ? (me, 24:7)
faith is the substance of things hoped for the evidence of things not seen
I hate people that flaunt the very rules they hide behind